Monday, July 29, 2013

The Radio Room

In my last post (Two posts in less than a month! Can you believe it?), I mentioned how I've been sorting through old files form my college days.  Here is another essay I wrote for one of my writing classes.
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The Radio Room

After greeting my grandma, I slip out of the back room where Mom and she are talking and walk to the other end of the house.  I pass through the kitchen and living room and step out on the porch; however, I am not coming to visit Pepper, as the little dog is obviously hoping.  Instead, I open the door on the left side of the porch and step up into a small room.  Closing my eyes and concentrating, I can still smell the combination of oil and Old Spice cologne.  This room may look differently than it did a few years ago, but it still holds the essence of the man who once occupied and loved it.  Before his death, I spent hours in here with him, playing and talking and listening to him talk.  He was my Grandpa Tapp, and I’m standing in his old radio room.

The room is positioned in the center of his domain of the house between his bedroom and his porch, and I would estimate that 75% of his indoor life was spent in these three rooms.  As the room is in the back corner of the house, it has two doors connecting it to both his bedroom and porch.  The porch stands lower than the rest of the house; therefore, a large step provides access to the radio room.  Faux-brick linoleum with its turned-up corners and rolled edges still covers the floor.  Although it is now filled with bookshelves and plant stands, two years ago the room was overflowing with metal shelving units.  Standing in the doorway between the porch and the old room, I stop to think about how it looked two years ago.

The room is not very large, maybe only 12’x10’, and he had every available inch of it crammed full of radios, batteries, microphones, light bulbs, and whatever else he could find a spot for.  His large chair, where he sat to call out on his radio, stood directly in the center of the room with its back to the porch door.   The only other seating the room could offer was an old, decrepit thing slumped in front of the window to my right.  I say “slumped,” for it was perpetually drowning in an ever-growing collection of papers and abandoned tools.  Grandpa’s acquired mass of forgotten items covered the whole floor of the room and most of the walls and shelves.  Besides the length of shelves and radio paraphernalia that faced where I am now standing, he also had the corner to my right filled with three metal shelving units, two shoved into the corner and one mounted on the wall directly beside the door.  These were overflowing with his collection of National Geographic and Reader’s Digest magazines.  From these corner shelves to the radio wall and all around the old chair, the floor was piled high under mountains of papers and tools under which there was always a liberal sprinkling of birdseed from Grandpa’s bringing Amadeus, his pet cockatiel, into the heated room during the winter.

On the wall opposite this hoard of paper, the floor area was relatively clean.  Directly beside his radio shelves, in the corner, the trap door to the cellar forced a no-pile zone.  On the wall were hung various certificates and photographs he had accumulated down through the years and a medicine cabinet that mostly contained screwdrivers and nuts and bolts.  The only interruption in this wall was a doorway in the other corner which stepped down into his bedroom.  A lone throw rug covering the worn area in front of this door gave testimony of his love for this disheveled corner of the house.


After his death, Grandma cleared out the room, giving away most of the equipment to her only son.  Thus, this room is always closed off now, for no one uses it anymore.  In fact, I may be the only person that regularly intrudes upon its calm.  I still love to go in and sit on the floor listening to the quiet and remembering the hours I spent in there with Grandpa.  His shelves and radios may be all gone now, but even through the books and plant stands Grandma has put in there, the room still seems to be waiting for him.  

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Friend-Losing: A How-To

You know how it goes: you change computers and back-up files, but don't remember what they contain or what program opens them. So, years later, you open a memory stick or disk to discover all items contained are from some ancient, forgotten file-type that nothing is able read. =)

This is the problem I've been trying to fix lately; I've been clearing out my external hard drive with all its old files from as far back as my college days (and before).  Re-formatting all of these old papers in my pack-rat tendency to keep every school paper I've ever written (Thanks for that, Mom.) has reintroduced me to some little gems from my scholastic endeavors. haha  Of course, as an English Education major, I wrote more papers in college than most people dread writing in their entire lives. 

As a kick-start to this poor, neglected blog of mine, I'm going to post a few of them on here.  It's been a laugh for me; hopefully, it will be for you, as well.

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Friend-Losing: A How-To

            Many people would probably say that losing a friend is a simple thing to do.  This misconception comes from their accidentally stumbling across a specific path of action.  The art of friend-losing is very technical, but can become natural if practiced long enough.
            The first step to losing a friend is to lay the foundation for a rocky relationship.  This can be accomplished in several ways, but the most effective method would be to use all these ways in tandem.  Make sure that you seldom, if ever, confide in your friend; keep your secrets secret.  Remember that you are the expert…in everything.  Always one-up your friend’s stories or memories, and you should correct your friend often, preferably in public.  Finally, fight to have your way all the time.  What good is sharing?
            The second part to ridding yourself of this person is to cause a problem of some kind.  This, however, is the most delicate stage because the problem must appear to have been caused by the other person.  A good way to start is to lie to your friend, or, at the least, keep the truth to yourself.  If possible, date the person your friend is interested in or steal a promotion from them.  Tell your friend that you are crushed and shocked by the quandary you are in, but do not, by any means, get out of the relationship.  As time progresses, begin to tell people what your friend is doing to you.  Make it look like your friend is trying to ruin your life.  Do not let your friend ever see you upset about the situation--even if your friend dissolves into sobbing tears.  Always act like nothing is wrong.  As a last stab, be sure that your side of the story makes the gossip circle before your friend’s; this assures your friend will appear guilty and petty.
            After you have laid the foundation and caused your problem, it is time to close the deal.  Now that you have spoiled your friend’s reputation and probably made this person almost hate you, you must act stunned by the turn of events.  You must look more than innocent.  Absolute horror is the best attitude for this stage.  Cling to your friend as if you are terrified that the friendship will end.  Drag the misery out as long as the dead relationship will last; make your friend feel horribly guilty for wanting to get out of the relationship and away from you.  If a holiday is near, buy your friend sentimental gifts that will always bring back memories of you and this friendship.  Follow your friend around all the time, forcing your friend to be rude in order to get away.  Be shocked and hurt when your friend gets angry and retaliates or rails back at you.  After a sufficient time of playing the victimized innocent, tell your friend, “I forgive you,” for the problem that you, yourself caused. 
            This last act of selfishness should seal the death certificate of this friendship.  Do not be discouraged if your particular friendship takes longer than you expected to kill.  Some relationships have been known to last for several years before the foundation was strong enough for stage two, and every now and then a friend will endure the punishment of problem after problem before closure can come.  However, sooner or later, this fool-proof method will always obtain the desired end--you will lose your friend.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

A recipe....sort of...

Well, I never thought that I, of all people, would be posting a recipe on here, but the photo garnered such a response on Facebook that I thought I would share what I did. =)  So, here goes

My (totally not really a recipe) recipe.
I'm sorry it's not a better picture,
but I didn't take it with the intention of posting it.
And, yes, the plate is sitting on my lap. =)

Bacon-wrapped Raspberry Chicken

Ingredients
Boneless Chicken Tenderloins
Bacon
Raspberry Salsa (This is my all-time favorite!)
Olive oil

Heat olive oil in a frying pan.
Wrap each chicken strip in a strip of bacon.
After chicken has cooked a few minutes, baste the top with Raspberry Salsa.  When you flip the strips during cooking, baste the other side.

Roasted Asparagus

Ingredients
Fresh Asparagus
Olive oil
Seasoned Salt

Wash asparagus and cut off the bottom tips.
Place in baking dish.
Drizzle with olive oil and shake the dish to roll the asparagus in the oil, coating it.
Sprinkle with Seasoned salt.
Bake until tender. (I think I baked them for 10 minutes at 350.)


That's all. Enjoy!

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Dancing with imagination

The over-excitement with my finally found poetry notebook continues....So sorry if I'm boring you. =)


Creation

A sculptor at his block,
An artist with his brush--
A writer's scratching pen,
A farmer's tending hands--

Incarnation all around us--
Divinity, worshiped intrinsically,
Shines out of creation
Bringing me to my knees.

Oh! We are wonderfully made!
You, beautiful One, surround us,
Piercing through our world,
Dancing with imagination.

Only One of all creativity
Can deserve such adoration!
Designing, shaping, speaking--
Inspiration flows from Inspiration.

K. Yerton
03/2003

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Happy, happy, joy, joy...

After several months of looking, I finally found the notebook of my poetry! I was nearing panic stage. =)

So, here is a poem I wrote on my Blackberry a few years ago, while sitting under a tree at a local park.


Burning

Like the leaves that carpet the autumn floor,
My sins have fallen before Your gaze--
Tangible proof of my death, piled in heaps--
Brown, orange, yellow--a blaze of imperfection.

Slowly, deliberately, You gather them together.
I turn from the sign, sickened by my guilt,
When I hear Your voice calling, calling--

A fire--blood-red, scorching--rises to the sky--
Your hands--scarred by the flames You gave,
Purposefully blotting out the record of my wrong--
Reach out to me from the smoke,
Welcoming me with Your embrace.

--K. Yerton
(11/2010)

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Just make it happen....the first time

Ideas tend to drop themselves on me at the weirdest times.  For example, I was painting my fingernails last night when I was struck with today's thought.  (Of course, my nails were wet at the time, so I'm typing it out the next morning.) But, before I dive straight into that, let me set up the scene.

As previously stated, I was painting my nails.  Now, I make no claim to be a good manicurist, mainly for the simple reason that I am too impatient.  I hate waiting for that stupid polish to dry! Thus, I am always slapping on a really thick layer and then denting, smudging, or just generally destroying it.  Just in case you are one of the 3 people on this planet who have never held a paintbrush, here's a tip: several thin layers > one thick layer.  I, unfortunately, very seldom uphold that rule; instead, I tend to try to rush through the steps to reach that so satisfying feeling of completion.  Of course, it doesn't work, though.  I almost always have to fix something because I was in a hurry the first time.  

There! That was my whole point in that tirade! =)  "Haste makes waste."  My shiny, wet fingertips made me think about all the time I have wasted re-doing things in my never-ending attempt to get things done.  Oddly enough, however, in issues not pertaining to crafts or nail polish, I tend to be a front-end planner.  If I'm decorating, I will get all of my ideas organized (at least mentally) and planned through before I start.  If I'm tackling a new task at work, I will go through the steps and see if there is any way of improving or stream-lining the process.  If I'm building something, I will read all the instructions before I start.  This means that I sometimes do things non-traditionally because I've figured out a different method that will be more effective or faster; but I also get it done correctly the first time.

Now, to my "big thought."  I have spent my entire life in church, in ministry:  minister's kid, youth worker, intern, worship leader.  I can't tell you how many times I have heard the phrase "Make it happen."  (This is especially true in youth ministry.)  Now, don't get me wrong; I am completely aware that we have almost always been understaffed and underfunded.  In fact, I don't think there is a single area of any church, most especially in youth ministry, that has a more than sufficient budget and more than enough workers.  However, this concept of "making it happen" does so much more harm than good.

I was involved with a particular ministry for a while several years ago.  It was a very good ministry, accomplished a lot, made an impact. However, there was an over-whelming attitude of "Make it happen."  In fact, the phrase was a running joke we heard it so often.

"Build a 40' wall out of boxes in two days?"
"Make it happen."

"Prepare a meal for 100 people in an hour?"
"Make it happen."

"Put together a meaningful service in 15 minutes?"
"Make it happen."

If I heard it once, I head it a thousand times.  
"MAKE. IT. HAPPEN!"

Now, believe me, after nearly 33 years in a preacher's family and 15+ years in youth ministry, I understand that sometimes you just don't have enough warning or plans have to be changed last-minute.  I am not denying that fact; however, so much of this frantic running around could be saved with a little forethought.  

I was constantly frustrated with the complete lack of planning on the front end, but the most baffling part was that everyone seemed proud of the fact that there was no method.  They loved that they could dive into a project and cobble something together without "wasting" time.  Unfortunately, they also seemed to be blind to the fact that they had to rebuild the project three times before they were done.  Sure, they had to completely scrap their original attempts and spend more money on supplies, but by George, they "made it happen!"  I watched the leadership "delegate" tasks without giving any instructions or guidelines for the desired result.  My fellow-workers would be half-way through a major project before the leader would check the progress, and 9 times out of 10, it wasn't what was desired and had to be torn down and re-started.  

Now, for all of you who have hackles rising at my audacity to criticize something that has seemed so effective for so long, I would like to ask you one simple question:  

Could it have been better?

The videos that were created in less than 2 days; could they have been technically better with more time for filming and editing?

The full-length scripts that weren't written until 2 weeks before the performance; could they have been smoother and more professional with more time for character development and rehearsal?

The worship sets that were planned 30 minutes before service; could they have been more anointed with more time for prayerful consideration?

The illustrations that were "inspired" at the last minute; could they have been more effectively executed with more time for integration?

Could it have been better?

I am very much afraid that, in our quest to make things good, we have utterly given up on great.  We have gotten so used to the idea of last minute panic, that we don't think any more time is necessary.  Because God has graciously used our efforts, we don't feel that we have to try harder.  We think frantic, last minute, busyness is as effective as careful, purposeful design.

Unfortunately, however, it's just laziness.

Monday, October 29, 2012

Missing Muse


I'm sitting here tonight desperately wishing I could write something.  Have you ever been there?  The Muse has left the building, and you have no idea how to find her?  It's moments like this when I deeply miss college.  In the 8.5 years since I graduated, I have really missed being in an educational environment.  Something about being surrounded by learning and teachers brought out the creative side of me.  I rediscovered it a couple of years ago when I went through the MC program at my home church.  I was finally once again able to write poetry.  


I don't know what causes the block, but it is very evidently there.  Of course, when I first started writing, I typically only got poems when my emotions were high.  And I use the phrase "got poems" because that's truly the only way I can describe it.  If I try to think of something, my mind goes blank. Then, suddenly, I'll get a phrase, and the rest all comes in a rush.  I shocked my roommate Sarah one night by flying out of bed and demanding some paper.  She stood there sort of bemused while I scribbled for about 2 minutes; then, I handed her the notebook and saying, "I was afraid I'd forget it," I went back to bed.  She was amazed that the poem (Masquerade) was complete and didn't require any editing.  All I could say was that is how they always come to me: whole, finished.  

But, returning to my lack of inspiration...

Does this ever happen to any of you? You have an ability or gift that sometimes seems to go on vacation?  It's very frustrating to know that you have something inside of you that you don't know how to access. 

Here's one of my poems from my college days:



Fall

Clouds, lightly roasted,
Eager for little hands--
Bonfire nights--
Cider apples--
Two-eyed sheets, howling for candy--
Brightly-colored showers
Blanketing the yard--
Frosty, leering lanterns,
Grinning out at straw men--
Families, meeting, eating--
"We thank Thee for this bounty,"
Ringing over turkeys.

--K. Yerton
9 October 2002